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from Jesus:
It can, but only if you do
it for the specific purpose of sublimating sexual energy and learning
to overcome any codependence upon or addiction to the physical aspects
of sex.
As I explain elsewhere (Link
1, Link 2), there is nothing inherently
sinful in the sexual union between a man and a woman who are in a committed
relationship. However, the true spiritual purpose of this sexual union
should be to create a stronger spiritual union and bond between the
partners. What unfortunately happens to many couples is that this spiritual
union becomes lost in an attempt to satisfy the sensual or physical
aspect of sex.
As I explain throughout this website, humankind has fallen into a lower
state of consciousness. People have become entrapped by the carnal mind
and to the carnal mind there is no such thing as enough. That is why
physical sex can become an addiction that makes people feel like they
never have enough sex.
If you want to attain maximum spiritual growth, you simply must break
this physical and emotional addiction. Take note of what I am saying
here, because there is a subtle but important distinction. I am not
saying that you cannot attain maximum spiritual growth by being at committed
couple having sexual union. I am saying that you cannot attain maximum
spiritual growth if your sexual relationship is based on physical pleasure
or a physical addiction.
A guideline could be how you feel after your sexual union. If you feel
unfulfilled, then obviously something is missing and this should be
a sign that you are too focused on the physical aspect of sex. The goal
should be to feel completely fulfilled because you have attained a state
of inner peace.
If practiced correctly, sexual union can be a preparation that makes
it easier for a soul to experience union with something outside itself.
The essence of the carnal mind is that the soul feels separated from
its spiritual source, and this sense of separation can make the soul
feel separated from everyone else as well. As the soul begins to climb
the path that leads back to union with its source, it naturally goes
through several stages. As one of these stages, it can be very helpful
for a soul to attain a true spiritual union with another human being.
For most people this means a partner of the opposite sex, but it can
also be a spiritual teacher, a family member or friend with whom there
is no sexual relationship.
Such a close relationship
lifts the soul out
of its sense of isolation and also makes the soul less self-centered
and selfish. Union with a partner of the opposite sex can be a preparation
for union with the soul’s spiritual self, namely the mystical
union that many mystics have described through the ages.
That is why spiritual teachings or religions have stressed the importance
of a sanctified relationship between a man and a woman. When I say sanctified,
I mean a relationship where both partners have made a commitment before
God, a commitment to attain true spiritual union. Obviously, you can
see that this is not the same as going in front of a priest and getting
married in and outer sense. Many married couples have not made a secret
pact with their God, they have not made a true spiritual commitment
to each other.
However, when couples do make such a sacred commitment, they can make
great spiritual progress through their relationship, including their
sexual relationship. However, please do not misunderstand my remarks
to mean that it is necessary to be in a relationship to make spiritual
progress. It is quite possible to make spiritual progress by being single.
The spiritual path is individual to each person. It is therefore important
not to make outer judgments about how other people should follow their
path. The important thing is that you develop inner attunement with
your Christ self and then follow the path that will lead your soul home
by the swiftest possible route.
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