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from Jesus:
If you study the teachings I have given in this section concerning sex
and marriage, you will see that I have already answered this question.
Nevertheless, let me give a few thoughts to ponder.
Thought 1.
Let us begin by recognizing that sex is one of the strongest drives
in the human desire body. There is almost no limit to how far people
will go in order to justify their desire for sex. Unfortunately, this
is equally true of many religious and spiritually aware people. They
are quick to use even a spiritual teaching to justify their desire for
sex.
This has indeed led some people to use the beautiful
discourse by my Mother, in which she explains that I was conceived
out of wedlock, in their attempts to seduce others. They do this by
arguing that if Mother Mary and Joseph could have sex outside of marriage,
so can they. Such misuse of a spiritual teaching demonstrates that these
people are strongly influenced by or possessed by dark spirits. My point
is that almost no matter what I could say about sex outside of marriage,
some people would misuse it.
Nevertheless, let me give some thoughts that are tailored specifically
for people who consider themselves to be on the spiritual path and are
dedicated to making maximum spiritual progress.
Thought 2.
Let us begin by considering how to define marriage? The official definition
would be that people have been married by an outer institution, such
as a church or civil authority. Yet as the current state of affairs
in most Western nations demonstrate, such a marriage often is no better
than the piece of paper upon which it is written.
Therefore, I would like to propose a spiritual definition of marriage,
namely as a voluntary commitment into which a man and a woman engage
in order to keep their relationship, including their sexual relationship,
as pure and as spiritual as possible. This means that the two people
make a commitment to keeping their relationship pure according to their
current understanding and spiritual awareness. And at the same time,
they make a commitment to continually help each other expand their spiritual
awareness.
According to this definition, I was not conceived or born out of wedlock
because my parents had indeed made such a spiritual commitment. I strongly
encourage all people who are on the spiritual path to make such a commitment
before they engage in sexual activity. You can do this in a private
ceremony, in which you promise God, in the form that you can currently
recognize as God, to be faithful to each other both sexually and spiritually,
to keep your relationship pure and to help each other grow in spiritual
awareness. You might use any marriage ritual you find appealing, or
you may make a simple promise in your own words. You may do any ceremony
you wish, but make it a sincere commitment.
Thought 3.
Am I hereby saying that I encourage people to abstain from sex until
they are ready to make a commitment to each other and to the ongoing
nature of their relationship? That is exactly what I am saying, and
I do so with good reason.
There is a very unfortunate attitude in much of the Western world today
that sex is an activity that can be engaged in without any negative
consequences whatsoever (as long as pregnancy is avoided). Many people
look at sex as being no more serious than having dinner or watching
a movie. This is not true, even though given the current state of movies
and the type of food eaten by many people, dinner and a movie can also
be risky activities.
As I have explained in other comments, sex is an activity that inevitably
opens up your energy field to receiving energy from your partner and
even from outside forces. Let me tell you that in Western civilization
there is an entire horde of dark forces who are constantly seeking to
inflate people's desire for sex. They have managed to use advertising,
the media, the educational systems and the entertainment industry to
grossly over inflate people's desire bodies. Many people have the impression
that there is something wrong with them if they are not constantly having
sex or if they are not having as much sex as their peers. This has created
an enormous pressure upon many people that causes them to engage in
sexual activities without having any kind of commitment.
The all-important factor here is the intent with which you engage in
sex. If it is done purely to satisfy your physical or emotional desires,
meaning that it is done purely for egotistical reasons, then sex will
inevitably open you up to imperfect energies and even dark spirits.
They will invade your energy field during sexual intercourse, and they
will bring with them various types of energies, feelings and desires
that will set you up for giving them their next fix.
By only engaging in sex in a committed relationship, you can greatly
reduce the risk of having your sexual relationship polluted by such
forces (especially if you also invoke spiritual protection). However,
making a commitment once is not enough. You must have a firm commitment
to keeping your relationship pure, and you must understand that in order
to do so, you must resist the programming that seeks to inflate your
sexual desires beyond what is spiritually healthy. In other words, you
must decide whether spiritual growth or sexual pleasure is more important
to you and to your relationship.
Thought 4.
Before the fall of human beings, human souls inhabited bodies that were
not as dense as the physical bodies you wear today. These light bodies,
or energy bodies, did not have sexual organs. They were androgynous,
although with some differences depending on whether the soul was mainly
male or female. How did such bodies procreate? Souls did so by entering
into a spiritual union that is far more gratifying than the highest
sexual pleasure known on Earth. Through this spiritual union, two souls
that were in perfect harmony, and vibrated in perfect resonance, could
indeed create another light body that would appear in the form of a
young child.
When human souls fell, they were no longer able to enter into this higher
spiritual union. Instead, they entered into denser physical bodies that
could procreate only through physical intercourse. This has reduced
procreation to a purely mechanical process that can be engaged in with
no deeper spiritual union whatsoever. This has made it possible that
the union between a male and female soul can be reduced to the animal
level and be exploited for commercial gain or be exploited by dark forces
to steal people’s spiritual light.
Thought 5.
The intent with which you engage in sexual intercourse is in direct
proportion to the degree of spiritual protection that you can establish
around your union. God the Creator is the only being that can create
new life out of itself. God first created two beings, Alpha and Omega,
and in order to create other lifestreams, Alpha and Omega must engage
in spiritual union. So must all beings in the spiritual realm. The fact
that new life on Earth can be created only through a physical union
is a reminder of the spiritual law that for new life to be created,
two souls of the opposite sex must come together.
The higher the degree of selflessness with which both parties engage
in the physical union, the higher the degree of spiritual protection.
I am not hereby saying that sexual intercourse should only be engaged
in to create children. It is legitimate, at least at the lower stages
of a soul’s spiritual path, that people have intercourse for the
purpose of establishing a greater spiritual union between a man and
woman. If done for selfless purposes, this can indeed further the spiritual
growth of both parties.
One can engage in protected sex only by exercising self-discipline and
walking the spiritual path. One must purify the desire body and emotional
body of all artificial sexual desires. One must be committed to spiritual
growth and see personal Christhood as far more important than temporary
sexual pleasure. If these goals are met, it is possible for two people
to reach a much higher degree of spiritual union than most people on
Earth could even dream about.
Thought 6.
That being said, let me caution that any activity on Earth, and I mean
any activity, can become a trap that at some point begins to hinder,
rather than help, your spiritual growth. There are those who believe
that sex, such as tantric sex, can be a shortcut to spiritual growth.
First of all, there are no shortcuts to spiritual growth. There are
those who seek to take Heaven by force, but they will not be successful,
as described in my parable about the person who entered the wedding
feast without a wedding garment.
As I said, sexual intercourse done for purely selfless purposes can
help your spiritual progress. By attaining spiritual union with another
person, you can make it easier to reach beyond the lower self and obtain
union with your Christ self. Yet there will inevitably come a point
where you need to realize that no matter how gratifying a sexual relationship
might be, you need to move beyond the point where you need another person
in order to have spiritual experiences.
You need to go to the kingdom of God that is within you and become spiritually
self-sufficient instead of relying on anything or anyone on Earth, be
it your sexual partner or a religion. If you do become attached to a
partner or religion, then that relationship will take you away from
your Christhood. In other words, at a certain level of your personal
path a pure sexual relationship can help your growth, but when you reach
a certain level, you must overcome all attachment to that relationship
in order to climb higher. If you do become attached, you will either
stay at that level or begin to slide backward. I am not saying that
you necessarily need to abandon the relationship. I am saying you need
to abandon any attachments.
Thought 7.
If you have the intention of engaging in a committed relationship with
your partner, and if you do live in a religious culture, why not go
through the outer ritual of marriage? It serves the practical function
of letting other people in your community know that both of you are
“off the market.” In my Sermon on the Mount, I made it clear
that it was not enough to abstain from sleeping with another person's
spouse; you also need to overcome the desire to do so. The reason is
that by desiring another person's spouse, you will indeed send psychic
energy at that person, and this can negatively affect the relationship.
Therefore, by making a commitment in front of your community, you are
reducing the amount of energy directed at your relationship from other
people. Finally, if you are fortunate enough to be married by a priest
who has some degree of the Holy Spirit, his or her blessing may indeed
place a sphere of protective energy around your relationship. Obviously,
such protection will not last forever unless it is maintained by you
and your spouse.
Thought 8.
What about people who are already living together and have engaged in
sex but have not yet made a commitment? Well, if you are committed to
spiritual growth, perform the following exercise of prayer and fasting.
Abstain from sex for 33 days while daily giving a spiritual ritual together,
such as Archangel Michael’s Rosary and /or one of Mother Mary’s
rosaries. Then perform a marriage ceremony.
What about people wondering if their relationship is pure and not driven
by sexual desires? The test is simple. Attachment to sex shows an impure
desire body. To put this to the test, decide to do the exercise I just
described.
Thought 9.
If you are a truly spiritual person, you will have planned your life
before coming into embodiment. This most likely included planning which
spouse to marry, and the spouse was selected to give you maximum spiritual
growth.
When you come into embodiment, you forget this plan, and in the West
many people even forget about the spiritual path. The dark forces will
often seek to derail your spiritual plan, and one way is to prevent
you from finding the planned spouse. This can be done by tempting you,
as I was tempted after my time in the wilderness and on many other occasions.
Dark forces can do this by sending you a person to whom you feel a strong
sexual attraction. If you engage in a relationship, it can easily prevent
you from meeting your spiritual partner—perhaps for a lifetime.
Therefore, if you know you are a spiritual seeker, you should consider
never having any relationship that is based exclusively or primarily
on sexual attraction. To achieve this, make it a personal rule that
you never engage in sex before marriage, be it formal or private. Also
consider that when you meet a person who seems sexually attractive,
it it good to take time to wait for the spiritual partner who is hidden
around the corner. You will be amazed at how resisting sexual temptation
can open the door that brings your spiritual partner into your life.
Prove me now herewith, saith the Lord of hosts, if I will not open you
the windows of Heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall
not be room enough to receive it.
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