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from Jesus:
An excellent question, which
touches upon one of the central dilemmas of human existence and also
gives me the opportunity to comment on a common misunderstanding of
my call to turn the other cheek. Let me give you a teaching on how we
of the Ascended Host view such situations.
Let me first say that in any interaction between human beings, the concern
of the Ascended Host is always to give all parties involved the maximum
opportunity for growth. We are not so much concerned about the specific
outcome of a situation as we are concerned with the growth of all people
involved with that situation. So with that in mind, let me comment on
this situation and millions of similar situations that happen on a daily
basis the world over. The essence of the situation is that one person
is violating the Law of Love instead of doing unto others as he or she
would have them do unto him or her. The question now becomes how the
person who is at the receiving end of this action should respond to
the situation.
Your first and foremost concern should be to avoid creating negative
consequences for yourself. To achieve this goal, you need to follow
my call to turn the other cheek. When you understand the true meaning
of turning the other cheek, you see that it means that you respond to
all situations with unconditional love. When you respond with this love,
you can avoid falling into the trap of engaging in negative human feelings,
such as the sense of being a victim, a feeling of fear, a feeling of
anger or a desire for revenge. When you avert such feelings, the Prince
of this world comes and has nothing in you. Therefore, you will not
create negative consequences, meaning misqualified energy or karma,
from the situation. You can actually go through the situation and maintain
your purity and innocence without being stained by the actions of the
other person. This prevents you from being dragged into a negative spiral
that actually binds you to the person who is abusing you, instead of
binding you to the Christ self within you.
That being said, it is essential to realize that turning the other cheek
does not mean that you become a pacifist and passively allow other people
to abuse you. This is a subtle point that has been misunderstood by
many Christians, who do see the importance of responding to situations
with love but who do not understand that divine love has two sides.
As Mother Mary explains in her discourses,
God has two aspects, namely the expanding force of the Father and the
contracting force of the Mother.
When you turn the other cheek and avoid engaging in negative feelings,
you are using the Mother aspect of divine love. This is the flame that
empowers you to remain pure and nonattached in the face of any atrocity
found in this world. Yet it is important for you to also use the more
active flame of the divine Father. This is the flame that empowers you
to take the appropriate action that will give both yourself and other
people the best possible opportunity to grow from the situation.
When you understand the two aspects of divine love, you cannot allow
the person who is abusing you to continue doing so, because you know
that it will harm the person in the long run. So precisely out of unconditional
love for the other person, you will spontaneously take action to stop
the abuse. This is what you saw me do when I challenge the scribes ,
the Pharisees, the Sadducees, the temple priest and anyone else who
promoted the fear-based approach to religion.
In your particular situation, I would recommend the following:
- First look at yourself
and make sure you are completely nonattached. If need be, use the
Forgiveness
Rosary to overcome all negative feelings towards the other person.
Use Archangel
Michael’s Rosary to protect yourself from any dark forces
that might cause you to feel negative feelings or to feel as a victim.
- When you are aware of
the spiritual side of life, you have a unique opportunity to work
on the situation by using the spiritual tools I give on this website.
For example, I would recommend that you give Archangel Michael’s
Rosary and specifically call for the binding of all dark spirits that
are using the other person and getting that person to engage in unloving
behavior. You should also call for the binding of the person’s
anti-self that is preventing the person from seeing his or her behavior
as wrong. You might also use Mother Mary’s rosaries or the Violet
Flame decrees to consume all karma you might have with that person.
Let me give you a sense of comeasurement. If you feel any negative
feelings towards the other person, then you either have certain blocks
in your own psychology or you have karma with the other person from
past lives. It would therefore be extremely prudent for you to resolve
these blocks before you go any further.
- When you have achieved
non-attachment, gently but firmly make the other person aware that
you consider his or her behavior unacceptable and that you would like
it to stop. If the person responds positively and seems genuinely
willing to stop the behavior, this might be enough. If the person
does not seem genuine or responds negatively, calmly tell the person
that you will alert the appropriate authorities in your company and
if necessary file a suit for sexual harassment.
- After you have talked
to the person, go to the appropriate person in your company and make
them aware of the situation without filing an official complaint.
Simply give them the opportunity to grow by responding to the situation
as they see fit. Make them aware that you have talked to the person
and asked for the behavior to stop, and if it does stop, you have
no desire to see further action. Yet give them the opportunity to
take such action if the person harassing you has already done the
same to others.
- If the behavior does not
stop, then go back to the authorities in your company and file an
official complaint. Ask them to make sure that this behavior does
not continue.
- If the authorities of
your company do nothing to stop the problematic behavior, then go
back to them and say that unless the behavior is put to a stop, you
will file a lawsuit.
- If your company still
does nothing to stop the behavior, then, and only then, go to the
courts and file an official suit against the person harassing you
and against the company that has done nothing to stop it.
You can adapt this gradual
approach to most other situations. Yet be aware that in any situation
that involves other people, you must always respect their free will.
Therefore, you must do what is right to the best of your understanding,
and then remain nonattached to the fruits of action. If people do not
respond as you feel they should, do not engage in negative feelings.
Instead, use the spiritual tools to call for their protection and enlightenment.
If they do not change, call forth God’s
judgment upon the situation.
If there is still no change, remain nonattached. In some cases, other
people refuse all calls to change, but when you have taken appropriate
action to give them the opportunity to change, you will come to a point
where you have fulfilled your obligation to them. You might then feel
like it is time to move on. When that happens, simply leave the situation
behind you or leave behind all attachments to the situation or a specific
outcome.
If you can remain nonattached, you will always grow from the situation,
and if you grow, your experience of the situation will improve, even
if the outer situation does not change. Yet when you change, you will
often find that outer situations resolve themselves and you find you
have risen to a higher level than before.
Can you see that by taking this gradual approach, you give all people
involved the maximum opportunity to grow from the situation without
falling into the trap of responding with anger or seeking revenge? First
of all, you give yourself the opportunity to grow from the situation
instead of allowing yourself to become a victim or seeking revenge.
Whenever you feel attachments to a specific outcome of a situation,
you know you have encountered one of the blocks to your personal Christhood.
Therefore, use the opportunity to remove that block and take a giant
leap toward being who you really are, instead of allowing the Prince
of this world to define you through weak-minded people.
Let me say again that the key to personal Christhood is to respond to
all situations with love. And the key to responding with love this to
realize that love has two aspects. One is the Mother aspect that empowers
you to turn the other cheek and remain nonattached. The other is the
Father aspect that empowers you to take Christlike action, as opposed
to the dualistic human action, to stop the situation and prevent it
from escalating into a downward spiral for all involved.
I actually gave this teaching 2,000 years ago, but it was never fully
recorded by the Gospel writers because they did not completely understand
the teaching. And certain fragments that were recorded in the original
scriptures were since distorted or edited out, so that Christians today
have been given a one-sided view of my teachings on divine love. Therefore,
so many Christians take a passive approach to life and believe they
should turn the other cheek and allow an abusive situation to continue.
On the other hand, many people respond to such situations with anger,
instead of understanding that to truly turn the other cheek, you must
be nonattached so that the Prince of this world has nothing in you.
I know that responding to all situations with love is a delicate balance
and a great challenge for people who have grown up in today's polarized
world. Yet it is also a great opportunity for growth because it allows
you to turn all situations into stepping stones on your path to personal
Christhood.
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