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from Jesus:
These are very important
questions, and they are important for several reasons. One of the recurring
themes on this website is that human beings have descended into a state
of consciousness in which they are trapped in a dualistic view of the
world. When you consider the topic of negative people and evil spirits
with the dualistic mind, you tend to gravitate towards one of two extremes.
- One extreme is the fear-based
approach, causing you to feel that you should do everything possible
to avoid people who are negative or who might possibly be influenced
by evil spirits. This will inevitably cause you to become very judgmental,
because you have to set up a standard for determining who is negative
and who is not. That standard will inevitably be an expression of
your fears and of your belief system. That is why you see so many
mainstream Christians who become extremely judgmental toward those
who do not live according to the ideal or standard defined by their
particular church.
- The opposite extreme is
that you reason you simply have to love everyone or love everyone
the same way. This means that you do not judge according to a human
standard. Yet it also means that you do not discern according to a
divine standard. This can easily cause you to open yourself up to
people or forces that want to manipulate you in order to steal your
spiritual light. Such forces are ultimately a bottomless pit and no
amount of love will ever fill them up. So by giving them your love
and light, you are simply wasting that light by casting your pearls
before swine. Unfortunately, I see many people in the New Age movement
who are taking this approach.
If you step back and look
at both of these approaches, you will see that they spring from the
same state of consciousness, namely a refusal to discern what is of
God and what is not of God. Many Christians refuse to do this by clinging
to outer doctrines. They think they don't have to use their personal
discernment because they just need to mechanically follow the doctrines
and rules defined by their church. Many New Age people also refuse to
use their personal discernment because they think they should indiscriminately
act loving toward everyone.
As I attempt to explain throughout this website, there is an alternative
to going into any of these extremes. That alternative is to reach for
the mind of Christ, which allows you to rise above the dualistic state
of consciousness. An important aspect of the Christ mind is the ability
to discern what is of God and what is not of God. When you do take the
Christ perspective, you realize that it is impossible to give a general
answer to the questions asked above. There are only individual answers
because every human being is a unique individual.
My point being that you need to make a personal determination as to
how and to what extent you will interact with negative people. Let me
give you a few thoughts that might help you find your personal balance.
Thought 1.
The basic question of how to deal with negative people can be broken
down into the following two questions:
- Should I avoid negative
people?
- Should I give them love
and thereby possibly help them overcome their negativity?
The answer to the first question
depends mainly on who you are, or rather your level of spiritual maturity.
If you have invoked a high degree of spiritual protection and you feel
you can avoid taking in people's negativity, then you don't need to
avoid negative people. If you have attained a clear sense of who you
are and a clear sense of your self-worth, you can interact with negative
people without having them affect your sense of identity and self-worth.
If you have attained a high degree of Christ discernment, you can interact
with negative people without falling prey to their subtle attempts to
drag you into their negative spirals and control you.
So one might say that for each person there is a balance to be found.
Your level of protection, self-worth and Christ discernment will determine
what level of negative people you can interact with without being dragged
down with them. And the bottom line here is that if you are to pull
somebody else up, you simply cannot allow them to pull you down.
Concerning the second question, this depends largely on the other people.
Some people have become so enveloped in negative energies or dark spirits
that they cannot be helped by any human being. Only the power of the
Holy Spirit has any chance of pulling these people out of their negativity,
yet even the power of the Holy Spirit cannot work against people's free
will. So there truly are some people that you should not attempt to
help unless you have a momentum on being an open door for the power
of God to work through you. Such people cannot be helped by any amount
of human love, kindness or sympathy. They will simply take your light
and immediately misuse it to maintain or reinforce their negativity.
Yet it is also true that there are many people who have been emotionally
hurt, and therefore they have become enveloped in a negative spiral.
Such people can be helped by showing them love, although true Christ
love is far more effective than any amount of human love.
You now see the basic balance that must be found. Your level of spiritual
maturity determines what level of negative people you can deal with
without being pulled down. Yet you also need to realize that there are
some people who cannot be pulled up until they are willing to change
their approach to life. For more on this, see my discourse on the stages
of spiritual development.
Thought 2.
If you are interacting with negative persons in the hope of helping
to pull them out of their negativity, you need to be able to withstand
their attempts to pull you down. Many negative people will unconsciously
try to pull everyone else down to their level. If you allow yourself
to be pulled down, you have not helped that person, and you have created
problems for yourself.
This is not an act of true Christ love. It might be an act of naive
human love, but I encourage you to rise above that human love. There
is simply too many people and forces in this world who will take advantage
of human love and human sympathy. I can assure you that many true spiritual
seekers have been fooled into allowing themselves to be dragged down
out of a misguided sympathy for negative people, dark forces or even
sympathy for the devil.
There is absolutely no reason to feel sympathy for dark forces or people
who have allowed themselves to be possessed by such dark forces. You
need to respect the Law of Free Will and accept that such people have
a right to create a negative spiral around themselves. Yet you also
need to respect your own free will and your right to stay out of their
negative spirals. As a spiritual seeker, you have a right to build a
positive spiral in your own life and to defended it against anyone or
any force that seeks to pull you into a negative spiral.
Too many spiritual seekers have allowed themselves to feel – often
through camouflaged pride – that they can change or save another
person. Some people have spent a lifetime seeking to save another person,
be it a spouse, friend or family member, only to realize that you cannot
help those who are not willing to help themselves.
Thought 3.
I know I have thrown concepts at you that can seem utterly confusing.
How do you know when to be loving and when not to be loving? Here is
my suggestion. Avoid making any judgments about this with your outer
mind. Observe your reactions to other people, and be on the lookout
for the following reactions:
- Sometimes you will feel
a strong urge to do something for another person, but if you take
a closer look, you will see that this urge comes from your emotional
body. Resist that urge.
- At other times you will
meet a person, and your first impression is to avoid that person.
Then your intellect starts arguing back and forth, and pretty soon
you reason that it is Okay to interact with the person after all.
Avoid falling into this trap of intellectualizing away your intuitive
insights and first impressions.
I encourage you to strive
for balance in all aspects of your life. In other words, avoid falling
into any of the two extremes I described above. The way to do this is
to follow your intuition instead of intellect and emotions. I give several
techniques on this website for increasing your contact
with your Christ self so that you can get more accurate intuitive
insights. It is also important to maintain a strong spiritual
protection because this will help you interact with negative people
without being pulled down by their negativity.
You will probably realize that you already have a strong sense of intuition.
If you did not, you simply would not have been open to the teachings
on this website. So the bottom line here is to avoid having your emotional
body or your mental body control your interactions with other people.
Strive to rise above it and allow your Christ self to direct you concerning
which people you should interact with and what form the interaction
should take. If you always follow your intuition, you will never go
completely wrong.
There will be cases where you try to help somebody and after a time
you have to admit that your efforts did not bear fruit. However, this
does not mean that you were wrong in trying. It simply means that no
matter what you do, you cannot override their free will. Some people
end up deciding that they will not be pulled out of their negativity.
I can assure you that I know this as a spiritual teacher who for a very
long time has been trying to help human beings rise above their own
self-created negative spirals.
Thought 4.
When you interact with someone else from a consciousness of human sympathy
or human love, you will notice that you are attached to the outcome
of the interaction. So whenever you feel such an attachment, you need
to be alert and realize that you have fallen below the level of Christ
love. You then need to let go of the attachment by rising above it.
It is non-constructive for spiritual seekers to become emotionally attached
to negative people. This is an open invitation for dark forces to use
such people to pull you away from your spiritual path.
You can use your emotional attachments to discover your personal vulnerabilities
to dark forces. You can then use the tools on this website, or other
appropriate tools, for healing your psychology to overcome these attachments
and make faster progress on your path.
My point is that when you interact with negative people, it is extremely
important to remain non-attached to them or their reactions to you.
The more non-attached you can remain, the more you can become an instrument
for the light and the love of God to help such people heal their emotional
wounds and rise above negativity. The more you become attached, the
more vulnerable you will become to being pulled down by their negativity,
whereby you will only reinforce their negative outlook on life and make
them even more anchored in a negative spiral.
What I am saying here is that it is human love that makes you feel attached,
and this love will not pull people out of negativity. Only the perfect
love that casts out all fear can do this, and when you are centered
in divine love, you are non-attached. Divine love is unconditional,
meaning that you will love others unconditionally. When you love others
unconditionally, you are not attached to a specific reaction to your
love, and therefore you cannot be pulled down by others.
Thought 5.
It is important to consider the fact that divine love is not the same
as what most people see as love. Many people have the impression that
if you are loving, you should always be soft, gentle and kind. This
simply is not true. If someone has blinders on and is walking toward
a cliff, it is not enough to gently ask the person to stop. You might
have to yell, and if he still will not listen, you might have to rip
the blinders from his eyes and point to the abyss.
This is what you saw me do numerous times when I challenged people 2,000
years ago. When I challenged the scribes, the Pharisees, the temple
priest, the money changers and the lawyers, I was very firm and direct.
Many people thought I was angry and that such behavior was not appropriate
for the Messiah or a prophet. Yet, in reality, I was expressing the
masculine aspect of divine love, which is very firm in not wanting someone
to destroy themselves.
God’s love will not prevent you from destroying yourself if you
really insist on doing so. Yet God’s love wants to make sure that
before you make a self-destructive choice, you know exactly what you
are doing and what the consequences are. In other words, God's love
will not let anyone destroy themselves without knowing what they are
doing. If they do know and still insist on remaining in their negative
spirals, then God will step back—as God's representative did and
the Garden of Eden.
Any true spiritual teacher will seek to enlighten people as to their
options and the consequences of those options. And then the teacher
will allow people to make their choices. If people choose to go against
the advice of the teacher, then the consequences of their actions will
be their new teacher.
My point is that when you interact with negative people, it can be necessary
and appropriate to be very direct and firm in challenging their negative
outlook on life. If you are not prepared to do this, it might be better
for you to avoid such people and focus on building your contact with
your Christ self. When you attain that contact, you can then allow your
Christ self to challenge people's negative beliefs through you.
In other words, no good can come from you using your human mind to challenge
people's beliefs. You should always let your Christ self work through
you to accomplish this task. Do not allow yourself to become trapped
in a spiral of human argumentation and conflict. Simply allow your Christ
self to speak through you and state the truth. Then remain non-attached
and allow people to respond to that truth as they see fit. If they consistently
reject truth, then withdraw and allow them to reap the consequences
of their free-will choices.
Thought 6.
Be aware that there are three basic reasons why people are trapped in
negative spirals. One is ignorance, the second is habits and old momentums
and the third is dark spirits. It is possible to help people overcome
the first two problems by being gentle. You can seek to give them understanding
and keep showing them kindness in order to demonstrate that there is
a better way to live than by being trapped in negative spirals.
However, kindness will not work for people who are possessed by dark
spirits. The only way to help such people is to help them become free
of the dark spirits. Unfortunately, such people often are not open to
being enlightened about their condition. Not many people in today’s
world will respond positively if you tell them they are possessed by
dark spirits. So what can you do?
Unless you have attained a high degree of Christhood, you should avoid
dealing directly with dark spirits of any kind. They are likely to either
steal your energy or direct negative energy or thoughts at you. So you
can ask Archangel Michael to bind such spirits and cut the people free
to make their own decisions without being overwhelmed by the dark spirits.
The most efficient tool for this purpose is Archangel
Michael’s Rosary. By giving this rosary for negative people
for some time, you can cut them free from dark spirits, and this can
make them more open to other approaches.
Yet be aware that no spiritual ritual will violate people’s free
will. If people are not willing to let go of the dark spirits, Archangel
Michael cannot take them. So there might come a point where you have
to let these people go their ways and spend your energy and attention
on people who are willing to grow. Allow your Christ self to show you
when it is time to move on.
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