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NOTE: This answer was given on
May 19, 2007, during the Shangra-la conference in Ireland.
Answer from Mother Mary:
It is indeed possible, my beloved, to have balanced the karma you have
with other people. But this does not necessarily mean that you have
balanced all of your karma. For you should know the reality that the
first 51 percent of your karma is the karma you have with other people.
But the last 49 percent is the karma you have with yourself.
For did not Christ say, "Do unto others as you would have others
do unto you?" Well, my beloved, does it not work both ways? Do
unto yourself as well, treat yourself the way you would treat others.
And I must tell you that there are some of you who treat yourself far
worse than you would ever treat another. You are much more critical
of yourself than you are of other people. And this is how you make karma
with yourself.
I would caution you also, that a physical attraction is not always caused
by karma—or an emotional, spiritual attraction. For there are
indeed some times where you meet another because it is part of your
divine plan to be with that person.
What I will say about karmic relationships, my beloved, is that there
are many cases – in fact the vast majority of karmic relationships
– where the karma can be balanced faster by not having a physical
relationship than by rushing into a relationship based on a karmic attraction.
And then, as soon as the honeymoon is over, finding out that despite
being in love with that person, the karma has not been balanced. And
now that you are in a more committed relationship, you cannot simply
run away from the karma.
And so I encourage you – you who are the more mature spiritual
people – when you feel a physical attraction to another person,
go slowly before you establish an actual relationship. Be willing to
give the rosaries on Forgiveness
and Rising
above the Past, putting your past karma with that person into the
violet flame, so that you can balance as much of it as possible. And
then be open to your inner direction to see whether you actually need
to have a physical relationship or not.
For I can tell you that there are many, many spiritual people who have
delayed their progress on the spiritual path by rushing into a relationship
based on a karmic attraction, and then ending up making more karma rather
than balancing the karma, as was meant to be.
For you see, my beloved, in order to balance karma, you must –
as we have said many times – be willing to look for the beam in
your own eye. And what often happens in a karmic relationship is that
you become so focused on the splinter in the eye of your partner that
you either forget about the beam in your own eye or refuse to look at
it, allowing your ego to create the excuse that you cannot possibly
do so, or that you do not need to do so, until the other person has
changed. For your ego will always say that the fault lies with the other
person.
But I must tell you the reality that your spiritual progress can never,
ever be limited by another person's psychology or behavior. Your personal
progress can be limited only by YOUR psychology and behavior. And therefore,
your progress on the spiritual path does not in any way, does not ever
– and I mean EVER – depend on another person changing. It
only depends on your own willingness to change.
So, my beloved, go for that change. If you find yourself in a difficult
relationship, follow the eternal advice of Jesus—seek first the
kingdom of God and his righteousness, meaning seek first to overcome
the beam in your own eye and raise your own consciousness. And then
all other things will be added unto you, meaning that either your partner
and your relationship will change or you will change your partner and
find a new relationship, perhaps even an inner relationship with your
own higher Being—being content and at peace in that state.
You see, my beloved, when you always seek to change yourself, you will
always grow. And it does not matter to you whether the other person
grows or not. For that is a matter of their free will. Whereas if you
allow yourself to believe that your progress depends on your partner,
well then you make your partner your God. And then you put that false
god before the true God.
For my beloved, where is the true God? Well, the true God is in his
kingdom. And where is that kingdom? It is within you—not within
your partner. For, my beloved, YOUR kingdom of God is within YOU. Other
people's kingdom is within them. And that is why you can find it independently
of anyone else.
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