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from Jesus:
I appreciate your honesty and openness, and I appreciate a question
that touches on so many important issues.
Let me begin by addressing the issue of karma. As I explain elsewhere,
it is important for all modern spiritual seekers to understand the reality
of reincarnation and karma. If you do not understand how your past affects
your present, how can you overcome the past and build a better future?
Yet it is equally important to have the correct understanding of karma,
and it is especially important to avoid the trap of associating karma
with inevitability or with punishment.
Some people have combined the fatalistic Eastern teachings about karma
with the idea of sacrifice or suffering as a payment for sin. Thus,
they reason that if something bad happens to them, the reason must be
bad karma made in a past life. And if they only endure the suffering,
they will pay back their karma and will eventually be free. This is
a dangerous fallacy that has caused many sincere spiritual seekers to
prolong their suffering needlessly.
Everything in this universe has one purpose and one purpose only, namely
to help you grow. God has no desire to punish you for your past mistakes,
and thus it is extremely important to realize the truth that karma is
not a form of punishment. Karma is an opportunity to grow, and it should
always be approached as such. When you think about it, why would a loving
God want you to suffer and how could suffering compensate for the mistakes
of the past? God only wants you to leave behind those mistakes, so that
you are free to come home to his kingdom.
You made karma by making imperfect decisions, and those decisions were
the result of a limited state of consciousness. The decisions generated
a certain amount of misqualified energy, and in order to restore balance
to the universe the energy must be requalified to its original purity.
Before you can permanently ascend to the spiritual realm, you must requalify
all misqualified energy you have generated in all of your lifetimes.
You must also resolve all dualistic beliefs in your psychology—the
beliefs that cause you to misqualify energy. Until that happens, your
karma – which incorporates both misqualified energy and unresolved
psychology – will act as a rubber band that pulls your soul back
to earth.
The return of a portion of your karma, therefore, represents an opportunity
for your soul to be free. This has two elements, namely that you must
transcend the state of consciousness that caused you to make the karma
and that you must purify the energy.
Overcoming your former state of consciousness is often the most difficult
because many people tend to hide from their responsibility to truly
change themselves from within. They often focus on the mote in the eye
of another rather than seeking the beam in their own eye. In fact, if
people have transcended their former state of consciousness before the
karma comes back, it will be very easy for them to purify the energy
and avoid disruptions in their lives. One might even say that it is
only when a person has shown no signs of working on transcending a given
state of consciousness that the karma is returned with full force. This
is done as a wake-up call to souls who could not be reached in any other
way. The returning karma is a last-ditch effort to awaken the soul to
the need to work on a given flaw in the psyche.
Purifying the energy is a mechanical process that is not difficult to
achieve, especially when you have transcended the former state of consciousness
and therefore do not misqualify more energy. To transform impure energy,
you simply need to invoke high-frequency spiritual energy from above
so that it can raise the vibration of the impure energy. This can be
done through spiritual rituals, as explained in the Toolbox
section. Yet much can also be achieved by responding to the returning
karma with a positive attitude, approaching it as an opportunity to
grow and set things right.
Do you now see the potential for people making things harder for themselves?
If they are not willing to transcend their former state of consciousness
– and especially if they do not approach life as an opportunity
for growth – it is likely that they will not see the returning
karma as a wake-up call. They will resist the karma, perhaps seeing
it as a punishment or in other ways reacting negatively, which easily
becomes an excuse for not looking into their own psychology.
This will cause them so suffer, and by doing so they misqualify energy,
which generates more karma and does nothing to purify the energy of
the returning karma. Do you see my point? Two wrongs do not make a right.
You cannot balance past karma by suffering as a result of the return
of that karma. Doing so will only create more karma, which can become
a self-reinforcing spiral that takes you further and further away from
Christ consciousness.
My point for taking you through this line of reasoning is to show you
that it is important never to reason that you have to endure a certain
situation for an indefinite period of time because you have karma with
a person. It is equally important to avoid the trap of thinking that
by suffering you will eventually pay back your karma and be free to
move on. On the contrary, you will only trap yourself more firmly in
a limited state, often making more karma with the person with whom you
have a karmic relationship. The purpose of any situation is to help
you grow by transcending yourself. Therefore, do not seek to endure;
seek to learn your lesson and move on in consciousness. There is no
point in enduring a situation. The whole point is to learn your lesson.
Let me now comment on relationships. The purpose of everything in this
world is growth, and this is also the case for relationships. So if
a relationship does not lead to growth for at least one of the parties,
what is the purpose of continuing that relationship? If the relationship
is karmic, the two people have been together in past lives. They made
karma with each other because one or both were in a certain state of
consciousness. If there is no growth in the present relationship, it
is because one or both parties have not transcended the old state of
consciousness. Thus, it is likely that the two people will make more
karma rather than balance karma. My point for this explanation is to
show you that it is a fallacy to reason that a relationship should last
a lifetime or that you have to endure a dysfunctional (meaning that
there is no growth) relationship in order to eventually balance your
karma. It is a fallacy to reason that being long-suffering and patient
will automatically balance your karma.
Now, let me make it clear that these teachings should never be used
as an easy way out of a relationship. They are not an excuse for an
unwillingness to work on yourself in order to make the relationship
work. If you are in a relationship that has some difficulty, it is safe
to assume that you have karma with that person. And this involves both
misqualified energy and unresolved psychology on your part.
Therefore, you should see it as an opportunity to grow. To make use
of this opportunity, you must make a sincere effort to uncover the state
of consciousness that caused you to make karma with the person in a
past life. This is often relatively easy by considering what upsets
you the most about the person—although I always caution people
to look for the deeper causes behind surface appearances. Ask yourself
why the other person's behavior upsets you so much. What is the psychological
mechanism in you that makes you upset. What is the hidden message that
you are meant to learn about yourself by seeing your reaction to the
other person?
The other aspect of balancing karma is that you respond to the other
person with a positive attitude so that you do not generate more misqualified
energy, no matter how difficult the relationship might be.
If you have honestly done your best to meet these requirements –
as the person asking the question clearly demonstrates – then
you need to take your considerations to a deeper level.
Let me make some general comments that apply to people who are in a
difficult relationship because their partner has a severe mental illness.
Any severe mental illness, including bipolar disorder, involves a soul
division, whereby something alien has entered the energy field of the
soul. This can be an outside entity or a pseudo identity created by
the soul in past lives. I talk about this in the section of the soul
and in the teachings on Schizophrenia
and addiction.
However, it is the soul’s responsibility to take dominion over
its own force field, so the only reason a foreign entity can enter the
soul is that the soul has abandoned this responsibility. The reason
for this can be very understandable, such as severe trauma in past lives.
However, it can also be severe mistakes or a rebellion against God that
the soul is not willing to recognize. No matter what the cause, the
problem that prevents the soul from returning to wholeness is that the
soul has withdrawn, has abandoned its responsibility to be in command,
and has allowed some other entity to take over, at least some of the
time.
What I am saying here is that I have great compassion for people with
this problem, yet compassion must not be turned into sympathy, which
enables people to continue in their unwhole condition. True compassion
becomes a call to action, so that you do everything possible to help
the person overcome the state of paralysis and once again take command
over his/her own forcefield, thereby ejecting the foreign invader.
If you find yourself in any kind of relationship with a mentally ill
person, there can be several reasons for that:
- You have karma with the
person because in a past life you caused the person severe trauma.
- You have karma with the
person because in a past life you were instrumental in the person
making a severe mistake.
- You have karma with the
person because in a past life you were instrumental in the person
rebelling against God or God’s law.
- You do not
have karma with the person, but you have taken on the relationship
in order to give the person an opportunity to grow. You want to help
the other person from a motivation of love.
- You do not have karma
with the person, but you have taken on the relationship in order to
learn certain lessons you want to learn.
You can often get an intuitive
feeling for the reason, but it really isn't that important. Any relationship
is an opportunity for growth, and for you that means two things:
- You have an opportunity
to grow personally. You must therefore seek to learn every lesson
you can possibly learn from the relationship. This will involve uncovering
and healing imbalances in your own psyche that are made obvious by
the other person. But it can also involve learning how to deal with
other people in order to empower them to grow rather than enabling
them to stay the same.
- The other person has
an opportunity to grow. The distinction here is that you cannot force
another person to learn a lesson. You can only seek to make it easier
for the person to learn. You can do everything possible to present
the other person with opportunities to learn. Yet if the other person
ignores all opportunities, there can come a point when the relationship
no longer serves a constructive purpose. Thus, it can be time for
you to move on, and if you are a sincere spiritual seeker, who is
honestly striving to learn your lessons, you can intuitively know
when that time has come. For help on this, make an effort to attune
to your Christ
self.
When it comes to being in
a relationship with a person who has a mental illness, you should always
take the following into consideration. The person is ill because of
a lack of wholeness in the soul. Yet the cause is that the person has
not been willing to take full responsibility for his/her situation and
take back the dominion that was lost in the past. You cannot force such
a person to become whole. The person can become whole only through an
act of conscious willpower. If the person consistently refuses to exercise
this willpower, it might be impossible to help the person.
Yet have you done everything possible to help the person come to the
turning point of being willing to exercise willpower and take back dominion?
Keep in mind that a person who is not whole will use every excuse possible
to avoid taking full responsibility and exercising willpower. Such a
person will often exercise great willpower in order to avoid using willpower
to change his/her condition. In other words, the person will spend a
greater effort on defending the excuses for not taking dominion than
it would require to actually take dominion. A diagnosis of mental illness,
especially given the limited understanding of current science, can become
a perfect excuse for not taking dominion. It is so easy to accept the
illness as being beyond the person’s control and thus take drugs
to numb the condition without confronting the underlying problem.
My point is that if you truly want to help the person, it can be necessary
for you to force the person to confront the problem. You can do this
in several ways, but they all involve your right to set boundaries for
what you can and will live with in a relationship. Depending on the
particular situation, it will be appropriate for you to clearly state
what you can tolerate and what you will no longer tolerate in the other
person’s behavior. You have a right to demand that the person
does everything possible, including using spiritual tools not recognized
by science, in order to change the condition. You have a right to demand
that the person demonstrates a willingness to change and makes an effort
to do so.
Yet for this to truly work, it will often be necessary that you do not
give the person a way out, whereby the person can avoid taking responsibility
and dominion. So you will often have to state that if you do not see
a movement towards resolving the problem, including putting a stop to
specific behaviors, then you will end the relationship and move on.
I am fully aware that in some cases this will not cause the person to
wake up, and thus by taking this approach, you might have to end the
relationship. Yet if you have done everything possible to learn your
own lessons and help the other person learn his/hers, then this might
actually be the best available outcome. Even if the other person does
not grow from this, you can move on to other growth opportunities. And
in some cases, the direct approach of setting boundaries can be the
only thing that can awaken a person to actually dealing with the problem
rather than seeking to mask the symptoms.
Some might say that being so forceful is a violation of the other person’s
free will. Yet that is a primitive line of reasoning, for the person
with a mental illness has already lost his/her free will to the invading
entity. You are not seeking to control the other person, as is the invading
entity. You are seeking to jolt the person out of the state of spiritual
paralysis, so that he/she can once again be free to exercise his/her
free will. Furthermore, you have the issue of your free will, which
it is your obligation to exercise. If you stay in a relationship with
a mentally ill person and never set boundaries for what you will and
will not tolerate, then you are suspending your free will.
The other person has already done so, yet if you let that decision cause
you to suspend your free will, you will make karma for doing so. You
are not responsible for the other person’s choices, but you are
responsible for how you let that person’s choices affect your
own choices. So be careful that you do not use the other person’s
paralysis as an excuse for entering or staying in your own state of
paralysis. Never let your ego use another person’s refusal to
grow as an excuse for you not growing. You are responsible for your
own life, including how you allow other people to affect you.
Let me also say that for many spiritual people, taking the direct approach
is exactly the lesson they have come to learn in this lifetime. As I
explain throughout this website, you have taken embodiment at a very
critical time in Earth’s history. We are in a transition
from the old age of Pisces to the new age of Aquarius. For this
to happen successfully, people need to be awakened to their spiritual
potential. Yet many people are not willing to be awakened because that
would require them to take full responsibility for their lives and their
planet—it would require them to change. Thus, they will often
actively resist this awakening, and the only way to awaken them is to
be very direct and sometimes provocative. That is why you saw me take
a very direct and abrasive approach with the kind of people, such as
the scribes and Pharisees, who would not be awakened.
There are many spiritual people who took embodiment at this time precisely
out of a desire to help bring about this awakening. Yet they are not
fulfilling this role precisely because they are reluctant to be direct
with those who are still asleep spiritually. This kind of goes with
the territory. If you are a spiritual person, you have great respect
for other people and their free will, so you are reluctant to be direct.
Yet being direct in order to awaken them to eternal life is not a violation
of their free will. It is a necessary step to prevent their souls from
being lost.
My point being that many of the spiritual people who have a great role
to play in the coming awakening must learn to be direct in order to
fulfill their reason for being here. And this means overcoming the tendency
to give in to others in order to keep the harmony and peace. In fact,
some souls want to learn this lesson so badly that they deliberately
take on very difficult relationships in order to force themselves to
confront this lesson. Let a word to the wise be sufficient.
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