4. The least you should know about happiness


What do you really want from life? Most people would say they want happiness. Yet when asked how they could attain happiness, they often describe a set of outer conditions that they assume will make them happy. “If I had this, this and this, I would be happy.” The problem with this line of reasoning – or lack of reasoning – is that it makes your happiness dependent upon outer conditions, conditions that can be difficult to control.

The consequence of the belief that happiness is a product of outer conditions is that if you don’t have this, this or this, you cannot be happy. This is a lie. It is a lie that has been programmed into your mind by those who want to sell you something or control you. “If only you buy our products, you will be happy.” “If only you follow my religion or political system, you will be happy.” “Follow me and I will take you to paradise (on Earth or elsewhere).”

Some of these people may have good intentions, but their attempts to make you happy are based on a fundamental misunderstanding of the cause of happiness. What is happiness? It is a sensation that takes place inside of you; it is a state of mind. Where is the logic in assuming that an inner condition – a state that occurs inside your mind – is the automatic and exclusive product of conditions that occur outside your mind?

The sun is perfectly capable of producing light from its own internal processes. It needs nothing from outside itself in order to produce light. Your mind has the potential to become a sun that radiates happiness, peace and love, as the sun radiates light.

You have been programmed to think that there is logic behind the assumption that happiness must come from without. The programming is so subtle and persuasive that most people never bother to take a closer look at the logic. As a consequence, they live their entire lives pursuing an impossible dream. Their lives are swallowed up by an endless quest to bring about the outer conditions that supposedly will produce the inner state of happiness.

Some manage to bring about a set of conditions that supposedly should bring happiness. Yet when they realize they still don’t feel happy, they reason that they need something else, or they need more of what they already have—more money, more possessions, more sex or whatever. Yet is it logical to assume that if something does not make you happy, having more of that something will make you happy?

When you fall prey to this assumption, you become like the donkey pulling a cart because it is trying to reach the carrot dangling in front of its nose. Yet the carrot is hanging from a rod attached to the cart, so as the donkey moves forward, it only pushes the carrot in front of itself.
You can spend the rest of your life chasing the impossible dream of attaining happiness through outer circumstances, or you can decide to take a different approach. You can decide to look for a higher understanding of happiness and how to bring it about.

You can begin by observing those who do find happiness. These are the people who come to the point where they refuse to play the game of seeking happiness outside themselves. They realize that because happiness is an inner condition, it can be brought about only from within yourself. This, of course brings us back to choice, and it leads to a startling conclusion: HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE!

Sure—you have been programmed to reject this idea. You have been programmed to believe that you cannot make yourself happy, that you need something or someone from outside yourself to be happy. Yet is it true? And do you have the courage to seriously consider this question? If so, you need to start by understanding your relationship to the universe in which you live.


5. The least you should know about the universe

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Copyright © 2005 by Kim Michaels

 

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